Anti political lesbians?
what and who are you protecting if it isn’t men, patriarchy and heterosexuality.
What are you really afraid of?
What is so scary about a woman rejecting heterosexuality?
What is so scary about the idea of a woman choosing to love women?
'political lesbian' is a term many, many lesbians have criticised, and unless you're saying that lesbians are all for men, patriarchy and heterosexuality, this post is bullshit. which i’m sure is what OP is saying since swornsister is almost def a troll, who likens lesbians to men and accuses us of ‘mansplaining’ when we point out lesbophobia. (let’s think that one through!)
lesbians don’t “choose” attraction to women, and lesbianism isn’t about ‘rejecting’ or ‘avoiding’ men - it’s about women, and the fact that we exclusively love women. if your ‘lesbianism’ is a choice to reject men, then call yourself politically celibate (if you’re not sleeping with women) or politically male-rejecting or male-avoiding or really any term which doesn’t throw lesbians under the bus. political lesbianism by straight women contributes to so much shit against lesbians, the idea that we ‘convert’ or are ‘predators’, the idea that we’re gay because we’re political, or angry, the idea that lesbianism is just a strong sister-solidarity friendship bond by some gal-pals, that it is sexless, platonic, intellectual, political. political lesbianism by bi women is still an appropriative, lazy and harmful way of communicating that you have chosen to date women. say you have a preference for women, or take a single minute to explain to someone why you choose not to date men, instead of grabbing the ‘lesbian’ label and throwing actual lesbians into even greater scrutiny about our desires for men (“okay, but you still crave real sex, right?”), or hypothetical worlds where we’ll have sex with them (“if you’re avoiding men because politics, then that means you’ll sleep with them when society gets better, right?”), or any of the other flow on effects of this stuff.
if you are exclusively attracted to women, then you don’t need the political prefix anyway, and this isn’t a criticism of you. and heck yes i support bi and straight women rejecting men, as much as is possible for them to do. but not at our expense. drop the term and stop gaslighting lesbians who disagree, or calling us men. it’s lesbophobic, it’s misogynistic, it’s super gross. i don’t want to have this conversation with swornsister because they are either a reddit/4chan troll, or so deeply attached to their lesbophobia that the conversation wouldn’t be worth having. but to firstwavefeminist and any followers who find my stance wrong or ‘patriarchal’ or bigoted, please reconsider what lesbians have said about this, and tbh just unfollow me if you still think it’s more important for bi/het women to call themselves lesbians than to help dispel the myths working against us.
Got that Sworn Sister?
Thankfully, the awesome Sworn Sister is right, and thank god for women like her who are welcoming new lesbians instead of shredding them to pieces.
Here’s an extract from a great blog on the subject of misrepresenting political lesbianism:
“In fact, sexuality, as a social construction, is far, far more than merely who we are attracted to at any one point in our lives. It is moulded, institutionalised and structured to benefit men, as a class, and oppress women as a class. Women are unpaid slaves in the domestic sphere and that includes in all matters heterosexual. Many contemporary radical feminists have written about the dangers for women of ‘sexual intercourse’ (frequently called ‘PIV’ – penis in vagina) and the pressures women are under to accept this as the only form of sexual activity possible or desirable. Doing so is at the expense of women’s well-being and pleasure. Pornstitution, (pornography, women being bought for sexual purposes), myths surrounding sexual violence, sexual harassment, domestic violence, are all forms of direct and indirect pressure and coercion leading to women being sexualised, de-humanized and being viewed by men as objectified body parts and/or his possession. The more subtle forms of coercion and pressure to be slaves include the ‘myth of the fairy tale princess’, that ‘the right man for you is out there somewhere’ and other assorted well-known indoctrinations which take place as soon as we can understand language. Forced and coerced sexual submission, regardless of her wants and needs, are a cornerstone of the domestic servitude which men demand of women under hetero-patriarchy.
The idea, therefore, that women are not bound to that servitude forever because of their ‘born this way’ sexuality, has been a freeing revelation for many feminists over decades. The idea that sexuality, just like all other aspects of life, can shift and change alongside political realisations, is revolutionary in a world where sexuality is seen as fixed and innate. If we demand that men change their sexual behaviour, how can we possibly deny that we have the potential to change our sexual desires to ones which are more liberating?”